HABITS

In keeping with the positive approach outlined by “The Secret” and “Enjoy” (see this website, www.davidhakim.com), I will pretend as if  I am 100% in the following qualities, knowing that if I am not, I will more easily be on the road to improvement:

I am LOVING toward myself and others, and as an expression of this love I look directly at those to whom I speak, and if to a single individual, I mention his/her name.

I ACCEPT myself.  “…I share with my heart and share with my life as I feel, understand, see and know it….” (from “Happiness,” this website.)  I recognize that I can accept the outcome of my actions because spirit is always with me.

I am OPTIMISTIC.  I see my efforts rewarded by the positive benefits I desire.

I am OUTGOING.  I recognize that “[I am] a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; [I] have a right to be here.” (from “Desiderata” by Max Ehrman, 1927)

I TRUST myself and spirit, and believe that “[T]he universe is unfolding as it should,” (also from the “Desiderata”), and therefore I deal with all things in a simple and straightforward manner.

I am FREE.  I have learned from the past, live in the present, and look forward to the future.

I am ASSERTIVE.  I refuse to play games with myself and let others play games with me.  I do this by taking the positive approach to the situation about me and clearly, kindly, casually, decisively and slowly explain my position.  I respect the intelligence of others by using as few words as possible.

I am HONEST, but not so honest that I am dishonest.

I am at PEACE with God.

I am CONFIDENT that no matter what happens I have the backing of spirit.

I am ENERGETIC, and even though I think I have no energy, I act as if I do.  I know that such pretense is many times rewarded by the acquisition of the positive goal I desire.

I am MOTIVATED by believing that my effort will be rewarded

I am FORGIVING of myself and others, and do this mainly by not judging myself and others.

I am PERSISTENT in my efforts to accomplish my goals.

I am FLEXIBLE in recognizing that there is more than one way to accomplish a goal.

I find the above positive assertions especially rewarding because Francisco Coll, the founder of the Americana Leadership College, mentioned repeatedly that those who appear to be concerned about the fear of failure, which includes the fear of rejection, are actually fearful of success.

These attributes are part of what brings about charisma.  By maintaining a charismatic attitude I believe I increase my ability to be successful.

I have found a great website which deals with fear of rejection, fear of success and a great many other psychological problems.  It is www.coping.org; specifically, rejection is covered by www.coping.org/relations/reject.htm and success by www.coping.org/growth/success.htm.  The website is entitled “Coping.org: Tools for Coping with Life's Stressors.  Coping.org is a public service of James J. Messina, Ph.D. & Constance M. Messina, Ph.D.  Email: jjmess@tampabay.rr.com  ©1999-2007 James J. Messina, Ph.D. & Constance Messina, Ph.D.  Note: Original materials on this site may be reproduced for your personal, educational, or noncommercial use as long as you credit the authors and website.”

Earlier on my website I dealt with coping situations in a different manner through “Enthusiasm,” “Confidence,” “Child Abuse,” “Rejoice” and “Happiness.”

                                                                                David C. Hakim

                                                            Rochester, Michigan

                                                            June 30, 2007